On the Zen(ish) Mommy Podcast, we love to have conversations that feel like we’re talking with our girlfriends and, today, we are doing just that, on the topic of orgasms! Today, we welcome Erwan and Alicia Davon who have become the go-to experts for those seeking relationship support. Erwan founded the Davon Method in 1995 and Alicia joined him in 2003, together they have supported over 14,000 relationships in finding success. Needless to say, they are well equipped to be having this discussion.
We may all be aware that orgasms have great benefits. Such as, improving your immune system, boosting heart health, elevating your mood, and even helping you focus. The list could go on and on, but what if we could take it a step further and have extended orgasms that last minutes, hours, or even days? Let’s talk about that for a moment.
During our conversation, listeners will hear how the natural trajectory of an orgasm is: arousal, plateau, sensation, and rapid decline. However, the key is to keep yourself above that line by being relaxed while you are over it. Additionally, you can turn the intensity up and down when you are having an extended orgasm. Erwan & Alicia will dive deeper into that within the conversation.
Furthermore, an orgasm is involuntary contractions in the genitals, abdominal ridging, darkness around the eyes, flushing, increased heart rates, and more. It is not, solely ejaculation or edging. An extended orgasm can become a state of mind.
“When we break it down into those clinical signs and we start to feel our bodies, feel the genital area, and allow ourselves to feel and approve of that, we have orgasms. It’s not so far out of reach.”
Let me start off by very clearly outlining that the clitoris is purely for pleasure, it serves no other purpose – use it my friend! It is important to pay special attention to what works for your partner, such as stroking the clitoris. Erwan will walk us through what the proper clitoral stroking process is that will lead to an extended orgasm. For a quick overview on that, check out The Zen Mommy YouTube episode.
By learning how to stroke the clitoris, it can help you enjoy other sex acts more and have extended orgasms. In turn, this could be the vehicle for a better relationship.
“Just as orgasms can peak to higher, longer levels, so can relationships. Having an actual practice – a stroking practice, a sex practice, an extended orgasm practice – really is the vehicle for that.”
This question comes up a lot. Whether we are thinking it ourselves or our friends are confiding in us, the answer varies. Here is what we know, we know by being present is the cornerstone of sex and relationships. Alicia’s thesis on the true source of attractiveness is presence & sensuality. For this happy married couple, they embrace this stroking practice every morning. If you are interested in hearing more on this, or specifically about the male orgasm, check out our episode from last week.