What if all that we inherit from our parents extended far beyond the physical and personality traits we’re aware of? We all have trauma in our families, to some extent, but which factors decide whether that is passed down to our children? Today’s guest, Mark Wolynn, has researched generational trauma in depth and is here with us to share is his wealth of knowledge pertaining to generational trauma.
During Mark’s research he found that generational trauma can be passed down directly from mother and father to children, but also grandparents & great-grandparents experiences can be passed down through our genetics.
“What we know is that the reaction to trauma doesn’t stop with the people who experienced it. Specifically, the stress response, the way that genes respond, this can pass forward to the children and the grandchildren.”
Within Mark’s book, It Didn’t Start with You. It explores, at length, what our parents and grandparents experienced can be passed down. Speaking on how genetics, epigenetics, and the molecular changes that happen after we experience trauma. Studies done on mice will prove fascinating results that leave you eager to unpack this further.
Within this conversation, you will hear what healing generational trauma really means and how the stress response is passed on. To understand the healing process, one must understand the “how” behind trauma being passed down.
Ultimately boiling down to the foundation for having trust in life, starts with your relationship with your parents. Some would think that the mother’s stress or trauma would be dominate, interestingly enough, both parents equally impact the children.
“Male children and female children are equally impacted by a mother or a father’s trauma.”
Both parents’ trauma will impact the children. However, breaking the bond with our mothers can have physical impact just as much as emotional impact.
Join us today to hear about Mark’s own search for healing. After inexplicably losing vision in one of his eyes, before coming to learn that he needed to heal his bond with his mother. You’ll hear more on healing the bond with his mother, restoring his vision and developing his healing method.
“When we’re cut off from our mom’s presence, we can be cut off from our gut feelings, and it’s through her attunement that we develop our core, that we develop our sense of self.”
Through this episode, you will learn how to listen to your trauma language in order to understand the root of your responses. Mark asks a question that reveals whether you are dealing with attachment trauma or generational trauma. Once you have the answer to this question, you will decide what to do once you have identified the kind of trauma you are dealing with. But healing is necessary. Creating positive experiences changes the way our DNA expresses. Learning how to be present with what is uncomfortable to connect with what is life-giving. After having children, they will often reveal what’s unresolved between the parents, and what we experienced at their age. It’s equally important to teach our children what happened in the family and help them to sit with uncomfortable emotions at any age.
We hope you join us for all this and more at The Zen Mommy
© Jessica Gershman, 2021